Agh! Who needs em’. It’s a thought we have all had at some point or another. I mean who wants to spend their valuable time investing into the life of another person? It takes effort, sometimes finances, time and a whole multitude of other things to make a relationship solid and worthwhile. I know for me I get invigorated by building in the lives of my friends it rejuvenates me. It is draining but in a good way, like how you should feel after a good workout.
However, not every relationship is like this. There are some that are depleting of all your resources and those are the ones you have to seriously evaluate on a more routine basis. Are you the only one who ever gives to this relationship or does the other person bring something to the table at least every once in a while? If there is not some reciprocation going on than you are not in a relationship. I am not sure what to call it but if all the other person does is take and never gives back it is a problem and it has to be addressed.
This is even worse when the relationship is a marriage. We are to love one another in a sacrificial manner, but not be taken advantage of to the point we have nothing left to give to the rest of the world particularly the Lord. Ooopps! I went and did it. I brought God in to the picture. How do you communicate with God (Jesus to be precise). Is the only time you have something to do with Him is when you have your hand out asking for another blessing? Do you let Him speak to you through His word, or through prayer? How often are you spending time with Him without distractions? I know I am asking some pretty tough questions, but they are important ones.
If you have spent anytime on social media you have probably seen the pictures that say something to this accord “Good friends can go long periods of time without having to speak to one another.” While there is some truth to that how good of a friend would I be if I never cared about what was going on in your life. All I did was just checkin on big dates like birthdays and holidays. Is that how you treat God? I know for a while in my life it was how I behaved toward God. It’s not something to be proud of, but it is the truth.
Take a moment if you would and look at how you spend your time. Write it out if would. How much time do you waste each day on social media, TV, email, texting or anything that you could do other than spending time with God? Now multiply that times 5-7 days a week, and you get a lot of time you could have devoted to God in study, and prayer. Now I am not saying every free moment you have when you are not working should be spent in study and prayer, what I am saying is don’t neglect these things at the expense of your relationship with Jesus.
You and your spouse would not be able to grow closer together if all you did was what you wanted and never spent anytime with one another (without anyone else around). How can you know their heart if you don’t bother to seek it out and ask? The same applies to our relationship to Christ. If we never bother to seek his heart, and know what he would have for us how can we expect to grow as Christians? We CANNOT!! I have often heard it said it’s not about the quantity of time spent with someone but the quality of time. Again there is some truth to that but if you spend enough time together the quality weighs itself out. You are probably not going to have a stellar experience every time you are with some one, but spend enough time and the good should out do the bad to the point there are even a few (or more great times).
While grasping this principle we should not underestimate the ability of the Spirit to give us an earth shattering experience each time we seek God if it is in His will to do so. I don’t know what He has in store for anyone and it is not my place to put restraints on the moves of God. So if you take anything away from this post please let it be spend alone time with Jesus however you can get it, and let it be real not something you feel obligated to do. If you love Him like you tell others you do, it will come more naturally.
Question: Do you really think it’s important to spend time alone with God?